When I started my journey with mindfulness, I desperately needed to find balance in my life for myself, not for anyone else. I’m not a professor or therapist. I’m just a normal woman who took in what was available, figured it out, and practiced like there was no tomorrow. After a few years [...]

Have you ever heard about opening your heart? Or closing your heart when your open heart feels too much emotion? Mindfulness teachers, and Mindful Self Compassion teachers talk in these terms, but it’s a little vague and abstract until you notice an upwelling of some rush of feeling and need to tame it, [...]

Chaos is a natural part of life, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s easy to manage. When we’re overloaded, maxed out, stressed out, and overwhelmed, even the beautiful order and rhythm of life’s natural way of unfolding can feel chaotic. Life, death, and everything in between sometimes feels like “just too much to [...]

The other day I was driving down the road thinking, “I just can’t take this for one more minute!” Then of course, I answered myself with “Of course you can, and you will, because you always do - there is no exit ramp, no way out, no way off this roller coaster.” I [...]

I have this memory from 1990 of feeling like my little baby and I were all alone in the universe. The love that I felt for him was heartbreaking. I could sit and watch him sleep for hours, waiting for his little cherub lip to quiver in his slumber. Everything else in my [...]

This year, let mindfulness help you become more resilient. Feel your frustration, disappointment, or whatever it is that comes up for you, then turn to one of these Mindful Methods tools to comfort yourself, as you would comfort a dear friend. You are that dear friend! You can enjoy the present more without [...]

My neighborhood has very little zoning. Old bungalows from the 1950s reside next to mansions with multimillion-dollar views of the sparkling Pacific Ocean. They call La Jolla, California “the jewel” in real estate parlance. About 6 months ago, a single white male from Memphis, Tennessee moved into the bungalow directly across the street [...]

We all want this precious time together with those we love to be filled with the stuff of life that makes for good memories, not “oh sh*t” moments and regrets. While none of us can control what others say and do, one thing we do have a say in is how we respond. How would you like to go into your next holiday event with a little more confidence that you’ll be able to keep your cool, stay out of others’ drama, and actually enjoy yourself?

“Honey, are you keeping up your meditation practice?” my husband gently inquired. “This is such a stressful time. I really think you should try to exercise and do some good meditations.” “Yeah, well, I’m using Insight Timer and doing a meditation for going to sleep every night,” I replied. “I don’t think that’s [...]

Do you notice yourself feeling tense or angry — not just while the news is on, but throughout the day as you’re thinking about it? If the news is compromising your sense of wellness and inner peace (as it is for many!), it may be time to look at a new way forward.