When life’s whirlwind starts up, it’s nice to have something to grab hold of that reminds you to stay in your body, stay present and feel your feet on the ground. For me, the simplicity of a stone works wonders towards this end.
I call it my “here-and-now stone.”
Find a stone in your yard, on a riverbank, at the beach, in the forest, or even at a craft or garden store. Choose the stone that calls to you most if you have a wide assortment to choose from. Once you’ve selected your stone, spend some time with it. Really look at it and feel it.
Notice its range of colors and textures. Observe how it changes temperature the longer you hold it. Rub your fingers over it and move it around in your hand. Think about how you are holding something that is millions — maybe even billions — of years old.
While you’re focusing on the stone, guess what you’re NOT focusing on?
The “here-and-now stone” invites you to be fully present in the moment, not thinking about the past or future. You get to focus on a stone, not on the drama of any particular storyline going on in your life. By focusing on the stone, you are giving your brain a much-needed break from all the chaos.
Use your “here-and-now stone” every day
I have a “here-and-now stone” on a cord so I can wear it around my neck. I reach up throughout the day and rub it between my fingers. It’s nice to have your stone somewhere where you can easily reach it. I keep another one in the front pocket of my purse. I know some others who carry it in their pants pocket and keep it on a shelf in their closet at night so they can remember to grab it when they get dressed in the morning.
Whatever way works best for you, try carrying a “here-and-now stone” with you every day for a month. Notice how it gives you the opportunity to step back from life’s chaos and get grounded, even if just for a moment. Give yourself that little gift and see how it helps diffuse some of life’s more challenging moments.
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